“There’s only one destination in this human lifetime, and that’s the last exhale.” These powerful words set the tone for an episode that challenged me as much as it inspired me. When I sat down with Mike Kitko, we embarked on a journey—from the glittering world of external success built on obligation to the deep fulfillment of living a life filled with passion, purpose, and authenticity.
Success on the Surface and the Hidden Void
I’ve seen many leaders and entrepreneurs on the surface, but Mike’s story truly struck a chord with me. From his time as a Marine to rising in the corporate ranks—managing a $65 million manufacturing plant and thriving in heavy industrial settings—Mike had it all. Yet, as he explained in his first book, The Imposter in Charge, behind those accolades was a man who felt like an imposter. Despite all the outward success, he wrestled with a deep inner emptiness, constantly chasing money, titles, and external validation to fill an inner void.
The Cost of Chasing Dollars
Listening to Mike, I couldn’t help but reflect on how relentless pursuit can exact a heavy toll. His story wasn’t just about climbing the ladder—it was about what happens when that chase leads to personal collapse. Mike shared how the move to St. Louis, the constant chase after the next dollar, and the misalignment with his purpose led to severe personal consequences. His narrative of weight gain, substance abuse, and the brink of self-destruction resonated deeply with me. It was a stark reminder that when we lose our true selves in the process, nothing outside can fill that internal void.
Embracing the “Now”: The Art of the Journey
One of the most powerful takeaways from our conversation was Mike’s unwavering belief in living fully in the present moment. He reminded me—and our listeners—that “there is the, there’s only right here, right now.” We often imagine that happiness lies in an elusive destination, but in reality, every second counts. Whether it’s a long-awaited trip or the daily decisions we make in business and life, the key is to savor the journey instead of always chasing a future that never quite arrives.
A Lesson from the Mexican Fisherman
Mike’s story of the Mexican fisherman left an indelible impression on me. The fisherman, content with his simple, fulfilling life, didn’t need to keep chasing more. His life was already rich with joy and purpose, even though societal expectations would suggest otherwise. This metaphor perfectly illustrates the battle between living out of obligation versus living from inspiration—a recurring theme that makes us pause and reflect on what truly lights our souls on fire.
Business, Relationships, and Personal Identity: An Integrated Life
Our conversation wasn’t solely about personal redemption. It was also a deep dive into how business, relationships, and personal identity intertwine:
- Business Mindset: Mike shared his insights on why we set goals. He explained that while many of us chase targets for insecure reasons—like insecurity, inadequacy, or insignificance—only goals founded on genuine inspiration lead to true fulfillment. This framework forced me to reconsider whether my own goals, and those of many entrepreneurs I work with, are driven by a heartfelt why or simply by obligation.
- Relationships & Evolution: I was especially moved by our discussion on relationships. As Mike spoke about the continuous evolution in a marriage and even in parenthood—how both partners and children must be allowed to grow into their true selves—I reflected on how vital it is to support and celebrate each other’s journeys rather than trying to mold one another into our own past images.
- Integrated Purpose: We also touched on how every part of life should serve a greater, unified purpose. For me, this means ensuring that my business endeavors, family time, and personal growth are aligned with my deeper why. It’s not enough to chase financial success when what truly matters is living an inspired, integrated life.
The Final Exhortation: Living with Passion from Within
As our conversation concluded, Mike’s parting message rang clear: Find what lights your soul on fire and pursue it relentlessly. Reject a life dictated by obligations if it doesn’t serve your inner purpose. Whether it’s coaching, growing a business, or simply spending precious moments with loved ones, every day is an opportunity to build a life of true inner wealth. When that final exhale comes, I want to be able to say, “That was awesome.”
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If you want to know more about Mike Kitko, you may reach out to him at:
- Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/
- Podcast: The Inner Wealth Podcast
- Book: The Imposter in Charge
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